The Best Way to Share Your Advice


  1. Kari-Anne Robinson says:

    This topic is for me! You are so honest – it convicted me. I’m signing up for the Fix Fast. I had a few chuckles, even with your ‘Fire! Ready? Aim.’ Maybe because it reminds me of ME! LOL
    Thank-you for sharing.
    God bless you.

  2. Patricia Jaracz says:

    Excellent advice!!!!!!!!!! I’m so glad you write this.

  3. Oh ouch…I know I’m guilty of this so I’m joining in your ‘fixing fast’.

    Hm, maybe a whining, complaining fast is next. 😉

  4. I surely require a fast from fixing.

  5. Loved this post, Cheri. Too often I’m a fixer, and I’m sure it gets in the way of sharing God’s grace with others. Pinning and tweeting this great article!

  6. Gosh Cheri, and I just knew I would be doing my friend a big favor if I just corrected/fixed her thinking expressed in the letter which came today.
    Why? Because 35 years ago – yes, 35, I was severely criticized for not making the decision she is making. It was the right one for me. I hope this is the right one for her. I’ll pray, and probably never tell her my story.
    Thanks for fixing my thinking!

  7. Good words Cheri! I’m a fixer and I think it grows from a habit most of us moms get used to when our kids are little. Asking clarifying questions, etc. before we dump advice is wise. Thanks!

  8. How did you know that this was exactly what I needed??? (perhaps because you know what everyone else needs… insert laughing till crying emoji here). I was just thinking that I waste time on FB answering people’s questions or commenting with “good advice.” – and even as I wish to reclaim some of my time – I am compelled to continue. What will other people be missing without my invaluable knowledge and wisdom? Or, according to your post – what will I be missing? The confidence that comes from knowing I am an expert or that I know more than someone else on a topic of interest? Really? I love your fast idea. I know it will be super hard for me, but exactly what I need to let go of this compulsion and to figure out how I can find my worth in knowing God made me enough – for what he has called me to do. I don’t need to solve everyone else’s problems (oh that my FB comments could do that) in order to be needed. I am needed by my people right here at home – and answering others’ needs is just a distraction from my most important job – my family. Thank you for saying what I needed to hear. Even if I am your only audience, you have made a difference. 🙂

  9. Wow. I can see myself in the examples you wrote, Cheri.
    I love to help others, but don’t always see that I’m not really helping at all. I’m sure I’ve gotten hurt feelings when my “help” wasn’t well received and wondered what’s their problem?!
    Time to teach an old dog a new way.
    Thank you for your enlightening words!🤗

  10. Perhaps we need a support group.

    I love your math equation : No invitation = No fixing.

    My problem is that sometimes I think someone is inviting me to help solve their problem when they really just want me to listen and empathize.

    I obviously need a better radar system..

  11. No invitation = no fixing. “Asking permission before giving advice communicates respect.”

    Why ask? If they don’t ask then they don’t want it. Am I missing something?

  12. I love your solution to the fix-it feeling: stop, drop, and write! Great advice! Also… I just listened to the Communicator Academy Podcast featuring you and Amy Carroll and LOVED it. So good! Especially day 2!

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