1. As a grandmother I have heard the wisdom in Kevin Leman’s statement: “An unhappy child is a healthy child.” When my daughter tells me about the tears and complaints when she says “no” to her children i remind her of Dr. Leman’s words. We share a smile and she is able to be firm.

    I enjoyed your post. It is good counsel!

  2. I’m afraid my wife and I have played favorites. Then again, we only have one.

    Good list, solid counsel.

  3. Sexy Christian Wife says:

    I’ve been trying to figure out how to not buy the other kids presents on their birthdays and get their grandparents not to buy the other kids presents too, but I couldn’t figure out a good reason. Thank you!

    1. The “let’s treat everyone equally which means treating everyone the same” movement has major repercussions. In staff meeting, for example, when my principal shines the spotlight on a particular teacher for a specific achievement/contribution, I can feel slighted and diminished if I don’t catch myself and remind myself: It’s. Not. About. Me. All. The. Time. (!!!)

      I’m going to slaughter a quote I (mostly) remember from Madeleine L’Engle’s Wrinkle in Time: “The same and equal are two completely different things.”

      It’s so easy to treat everyone the same and think we’ve treated them equally…much more complicated to treat everyone as the unique individual (s)he is!

  4. At least you were able to balance your favoritism: most favorite child/least favorite child…first child/last child…

    🙂 Thank you for stopping by again! The series on reflective practices will start when my website/blog redesign is finished…soon…I hope… 😉

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