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  1. Cheri,

    Brilliant and filled with truth. Oh, that we all would stay in history mode.

    Great post. Hugs, Lynn

  2. What a terrific analogy, Cheri! I’ll keep “History” in mind, the next time I’m tempted to default to “Math.” e-Dad will be grateful I sat under your teaching!

    Thanks for joining us for Marriage Monday today. :~D

  3. Really appreciated the witty way of making your point. I was posting on a similar topic. It is so important not to focus on changing others, especially our men… how do we know our version of what they should be would be the best for all involved?

  4. That was great Cheri! Rob and I both are history buffs (yay!), so this was great. And I loved the component from the temperaments. I’m a San-Mel-Chlor and Rob is a Mel-Chlor!

    {{Hugs))
    Jen

  5. Cheri, it is all too easy to let what we love about your husbands also be the things we grow weary of. Thank you for the reminder to not look at my husband as a “problem to be solved,” but as a person to be cherished.

  6. Very interesting! Glad I’m bad at math, LOL!

    Seriously interesting stuff, thanks for sharing it.

  7. I enjoyed reading your post this morning. I liked how you related Math to problems and History to facts.

    Like “nice A” I was wondering which track you were going down in terms of Math and Hisory. (I am a History nut so this especially appeals to me.) I was thinking in lines of OUR History, the ones we build as we grow together.

    I am reminded of something our Pastor has said in the past,
    “Don’t let what you feel, control what you know. Let what you know, control how you feel”.

    Satan loves nothing more than to sow seeds of discontent, inequity and selfishness in our marriages. Once we start going down that road we need to stop and do a 180 before those become negative habits.

    Connie

  8. We try to remind ourselves about those strengths from our dating days…that they are still strengths…and part of what we love about each other. We try to encourage each other to grow in strength…not fade away in weakness.

  9. When I was reading your title at Chrysalis’s mcklinky, I was trying to predict your content. I playfully guessed my personal associations with Math and History in relation to marriage and I came up with another perspective in not applying Math into it. What I usually hear from friends is their complaints about their husband doing just a little share in the household chores or this and that. So this is calculating, LOL. For History, I didn’t have any guess as I was actually running counter to your idea that instead of using Math mode, use History. What I’ve learned in a relationship is never to remind our spouse with the past issue or relate the present issue to the past. But you’re talking about the mode in focusing on facts which I really I agree.
    Thank you very much for this very interesting post. The letters strike a familiar chord:)

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