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  1. Wow! What an awesome post. I’m finding that in an area other than my marriage I’m needing a climate change (dh sees the need as well). This was another step in the encouragement that God is giving me to prepare me for that change. Bless you!

  2. Living in Texas I understand your crock pot mentality all too well!

    I think you’re right about the external influences that can slowly poison a good marriage! We can’t see it even when it’s obvious to others! Just think, had you have given up during those times, you wouldn’t be experienceing the lushness that you are now! WE all tend to quit way too soon! Kudos to those who stick it out. One thing I’ve learned that has become a mantra for me is this:
    “When satan seems to escalate his attacks on me or my marriage it’s because God has something unbelievable for me/us right around the corner and satan definitely does NOT want us to experience that!”.

    Some times, that thought has given me the extra stamina to endure something when I think I’ve reached my limit.
    Connie

  3. Great take on how our surroundings affect our marriages. And I loved your paragraph describing the different marriage books you’ve read (“see through blue glasses with boundaries. . .”). Very cute.

  4. Hi,
    I came over from Marriage Monday.

    I just wanted to encourage you about what you wrote. We came out of a toxic, toxic church of eleven years. I won’t share all the details, but I can say it was all about being loyal. We didn’t realize what a toll it was taking on our marriage and our children. We have been out for two years now. In some ways thing improved overnight others have taken time. But being in a better place or safe place makes all the difference. For a while I looked at our time as almost wasted, but not now, I look at it as time where we became resilient.

    Great post!

  5. Hello, This is a wonderful post for MM! I really enjoyed reading it. It is interesting how beneficial the climate change has been for your marriage!

  6. Hi Cheri!

    You make so many great points here, boy have we been there done that, and I’m sure we’ll go through it again.

    Thanks for being so authentic with your writing!

  7. Wow, what a powerful lesson you both learned! We have been in situations and “climates” that had we been in them for much longer could have easily taken a terrible toll on our marriage. Fifteen years is a long time to be simmering in a bad situation!

    And I know about “crockpot” living. I was in South Florida for 6 years during college (and that’s where my hubby is from). I can’t stand the heat and it made me grumpy!

    Thanks for linking up today. I love your writing style!

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